Losing a loved one, particularly in unexpected or untimely circumstances, can leave you with a whirlwind of emotions, including anger and confusion. It's challenging enough to navigate through overwhelming grief, and feeling guilty about these emotions can only add to the burden. Personally, I don't believe that simply "letting go" is the answer. Instead, I believe in allowing oneself to fully experience and embrace these emotions as part of the healing process. Mourning doesn't come with an expiration date; it takes its own time. When I lost my mother, and later when my wife lost her mother, it felt as if time stood still. Just a few days ago, we marked the one-year anniversary of my mother's passing, and it's hard to believe that it's been that long; it still feels like yesterday. I hold my mother's memory close to my heart and face grief and regrets head-on, accepting them for what they are. I welcome these emotions, embracing them whenever I can, without judgment or self-criticism, allowing myself to feel them authentically. Of course, I still grapple with grief in a more "traditional" way, often overwhelmed by waves of sadness. Even as a spiritual person who holds steadfast beliefs in Universal love and the everlasting nature of the spirit, it doesn't mean I don't ache for my mother with a pain that cuts deep. There are moments when I catch myself yearning, thinking, "I would give anything to have her back." Everyday situations arise where I imagine her presence, such as taking a nature walk or enjoying a sunny day at a waterfront winery. These thoughts ignite a fire of anger within me—anger at the injustice of her untimely departure. Sometimes, I find myself caught in a conflict of beliefs: on one hand, knowing that she is free from fear and sadness, unaffected by the earthly realm, and exactly where she is meant to be, while on the other hand, I am consumed by the weight of her absence and an undeniable longing to have her by my side once more.
So, that is my question…how do you deal with your grief? Do you feel there is an expiration date? If you are a Spiritual or religious person, how does that affect your grieving process? I thought I knew how I would react to something like this until it happened to me. It certainly changes the story, doesn’t it?
I understand and feel deeply for the emotions you're going through and the difficult journey of grief you're experiencing.
It's hard to let go of our loved ones and more difficult if it is mother who introduce us to the new life. No words or emotions enough to express the joy that we receives from the mother.
People often offer advice on how to cope with grief, but when they experience it themselves, everything changes. We must understand that everyone's life and mindset are different. I believe there is no specific expiration date for mourning. Mourning is not a bad thing; it helps comfort our hearts as we navigate through pain. The grieving process varies for each person, and it takes time.
It's normal to miss our departed loved ones and feel anger towards nature or a higher power. I lost my father at a young age, and I still miss him. I often imagine how different and better life could have been with him by my side.
As a spiritual or religious person, it's important to learn to let go and accept the natural cycle of life. Our bodies have an expiration date, as they are borrowed from nature for a specific time. When that time comes, we must return them. The truth is that no one truly dies. The body may cease to exist, but our spirits are eternal and connected to the same source. You will be reunited with your mother in spirit form, so it's a matter of waiting for that time and focusing on your own enlightenment in this lifetime.
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You are good son and every mother deserve son like you.