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Loneliness and Solitude: How to Deal With Loneliness

Solitude and loneliness are two experiences that are often perceived as opposites. Solitude is the state of being alone, but it is often voluntary and associated with feelings of happiness and peace. On the other hand, loneliness is the feeling of being disconnected from others, which can be a challenging and painful experience. We have to understand both are just a word and created by language and we create the pain or joy out of it by accepting the same situation with different perceptions.

"Language... has created the word 'loneliness' to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word 'solitude' to express the glory of being alone. " - Paul Tillich

While these experiences are different, they are also interconnected. When we feel lonely, we may seek out solitude as a way to escape the discomfort of being around others. Similarly, when we spend too much time alone, we may start to feel lonely and isolated. It's important to recognize that both solitude and loneliness are normal and common experiences. We all need time to be alone and recharge, but we also need social connections and relationships to thrive.

It's beautiful world, but unfortunately, some people are really skilled at creating mental illness in order to create finance out of it. These people have come with the terms like 'Introvert' and 'Extrovert". They will tell you how being either could harm you and then will come with the solutions as well. Only by seeing through the perception of truth one can really understand by creating such simple terms, they can push you towards mental illness. These individuals use these terms to create self-doubt and convince you to seek their help. There are people who can only see what lacks in other and fail to see beautiful side of the person. One need to learn to ignore such people and if you are among them then you need to put efforts in changing the negative mindset of your own.

There are people who say "We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone" but I don't agree with them. Only by seeing through the eyes and not by truth of reality, they can say so. But we have to understand scientifically that the human body is home to a vast and diverse community of living microbes, known as the human microbiome. They are equally responsible for maintaining the health of the body and that is enough to prove, we are collectively being when we consider ourselves as a body and on the death of that body whole community lost the home. Only because you never turned your attention in inner world, you don't know the whole picture.

The intention behind explaining that, I believe without understanding the true identity of who you are, you can not deal with the terms these people come with to play with your mind. Loneliness and Solitude are same condition fundamentally, but by giving two different scenarios they confuse your mind and make you seek their help.

I want you to take the term loneliness with the same positivity as a solitude and get rid of those negative vibrations that social media has created around you. Once you understand wherever you are, you cannot be alone then you can learn to take the help of that same community and you will not go towards suicide which is often seen as the final solution. Those who says in mind they feel alone, they need to understand that mind is not a reality but bubble of information which you often think as knowledge but that is also not true. Most of the information that you carry is received from people around you, and by that logic even in mind you are not alone. Mind is that bank where anyone can come and deposit their thoughts.

Those of you who think by seeking help from a psychiatrist or talking with the someone you can get rid of negative emotions of that term loneliness has given you, then it is your biggest mistake. By seeking outward help you will only become dependent of them which are helping you to relax or calm down but not eliminating the roots of loneliness. Medicines can calm down your nerves as the words of saints do with mind, but it will not transform your painful experience into bliss for forever. In order to get rid of it fully, you need to be ready to be still within by both physically and mentally. Meditation is the only path and divine as a destination can only help you.

Solitude does not come from reading articles about it or by taking a walk in the nature neither it comes by going for solo bike riding. One need to understand solitude is the state of being whether you are around in a group of people or land of Sahara desert. Once you awaken your kundalini energy and experience the bliss in connection with the divine, you can witness it.

Connect your subtle body to the right source and turn every negative emotion into bliss. The guru will be available, but for that disciple has to be ready to surrender and empty the information that he hold as a treasure of knowledge.

Man enjoying solitude

"I want to be the best version of reality, one who can deny the false or vague ideas that shadows of the reality. It does not matter even if it costs me solitude for my whole life." - Nilesh zapade


Quote suggests that it is very important to be committed to being truthful and authentic, even if it means living a life of solitude. one should be willing to reject false or vague ideas, which can be difficult if those ideas are widely accepted by others. For such a commitment to the truth and authenticity may require you to distance yourself from who do not share same values and perspective.

For example, you might be someone who questions the status quo and seeks to understand the world on a deeper level. You might find that many of the ideas and beliefs held by others don't align with your own experiences and observations. Rather than conforming to those beliefs for the sake of fitting in, you are committed to being your best self and seeking out the truth, even if it means being alone.

Solitude is a valuable tool for self-discovery and personal growth. By spending time alone, you can reflect on your thoughts and emotions, gain clarity, and cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself and the world around you. You may find that solitude allows you to tap into your creativity and intuition, and to develop a stronger sense of purpose and direction in life.

Solitude is a concept that has been explored by many spiritual leaders throughout history, including Gautam Buddha and Lao Tzu. Gautam Buddha in his journey towards enlightenment he has to leave his family behind, He changes his Gurus constantly in order to find more clarity in his life and there was one time he left alone and nobody was with him, He decided to sit at under tree till death and there he found enlightenment and after that he never got chance to be alone as his disciples was always with him.

Lao Tzu was a Chinese philosopher and writer who founded Taoism, a philosophy focused on living in harmony with the natural world. Like Buddha, Lao Tzu believed that solitude was essential for achieving inner peace and enlightenment. He wrote, "One can be greatly helped by a solitary life. The serenity and detachment achieved in solitude are essential to any progress in contemplation or inner exploration."

In the context of Gautam Buddha and Lao Tzu, you may see their teachings on solitude as an inspiration for your own journey. Once again I will say both loneliness and solitude are just words and do not take either of them as negative or positive, let not your surrounding fool you and make your beautiful life miserable for you. Take strong decisions for yourself even they seem stupid to others but make sure you are not gonna spend your rest of the life in delusion or in the darkness.

Tips To Deal with Loneliness

  • Accept that it is normal to feel lonely at times and that it is okay to experience this emotion.

  • Try to identify the reasons for your loneliness and work towards addressing them.

  • Reach out to others by joining social clubs, hobby groups, or volunteering opportunities in your community.

  • Practice self-care, including exercise, healthy eating, and getting enough sleep.

  • Find solace in nature by taking walks in parks, going on hikes, or simply sitting in a garden.

  • Read books, listen to podcasts, or watch documentaries that interest you and stimulate your mind.

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  • Develop a daily meditation or mindfulness practice to cultivate inner peace and calm.

  • Explore your creative side by taking up a new hobby, such as painting, knitting, or writing.

  • Connect with others through online communities, forums, or social media groups. ( )

  • Practice gratitude by keeping a journal or simply reflecting on what you are thankful for each day.

  • Engage in activities that you enjoy, such as cooking, playing music, or gardening.

  • Spend time with animals, whether by pet-sitting, volunteering at a shelter, or simply spending time with your own pet.

  • Take up a new skill or hobby that you have always wanted to try, such as learning a new language or taking dance lessons.

  • Reach out to old friends or family members that you have lost touch with.

  • Practice empathy and compassion by volunteering or helping others in need.

  • Embrace solitude by spending time alone doing things that bring you joy and peace.

  • Take a break from technology and social media to focus on connecting with yourself and your surroundings.

  • Travel and explore new places to broaden your perspective and experience new cultures.

  • Learn to be comfortable with yourself and enjoy your own company by cultivating self-love and acceptance.

  • Practice self-reflection by journaling or meditating on your thoughts and emotions.


  • Seek out support from a trusted friend or family member who can offer a listening ear.

  • Attend social events or gatherings that align with your interests to meet like-minded individuals.

  • Volunteer in your community to build connections and a sense of purpose.

  • Set achievable goals for yourself and work towards accomplishing them to boost your self-esteem.

  • Take care of your physical appearance by dressing nicely and practicing good hygiene.

  • Find comfort in rituals or routines, such as having a morning cup of coffee or taking a nightly bubble bath.

  • Focus on the present moment by practicing mindfulness and avoiding dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.

  • Engage in activities that bring you a sense of accomplishment or mastery, such as learning a new skill or completing a project.

  • Seek out professional help one whom you can trust, if your loneliness is persistent and impacting your mental health

But hey, if all else fails and you find yourself alone in your pursuit of truth and authenticity, just remember that you can always adopt a houseplant as your new best friend. They won't judge you for spending hours in solitude, and they'll always be there to lend a leafy ear when you need it. Even if that does not work for you come here, write to me and I will find a way to revert back as soon as possible.

Of course, this is just a lighthearted way to acknowledge the challenges of solitude, and not meant to undermine the importance of genuine human connection. While plants can make great companions, there's no substitute for the love and support of real friends and family. Once you learn to understand how relationships works, you won't have time to be alone as somebody always be there looking for your hand


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Feb 18, 2023

Overall, your post presents some thought-provoking ideas and encourages readers to consider their own perceptions and experiences of loneliness and solitude.

Feb 18, 2023
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Thoughts will not be a reality if it is not bound with the experience. My only erge to readers to do not take negetive emotions so seriously that you will have to depend on other entities to get rid of it as that will be more worst slavery than being slave of your own emotions.


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